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The Best Marriage Advice Ever

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Choose to love each other even in those moments when you struggle to like each other. Love is a commitment, not a feeling.

Always answer the phone when your husband/wife is calling and when possible, try to keep your phone off when you’re together with your spouse.

Make time together a priority. Budget for a consistent date night. Time is the “currency of relationships” so consistently invest time into your marriage.

Surround yourself with friends who will strengthen your marriage and remove yourself from people who may tempt you to compromise your character.

Make laughter the soundtrack of your marriage. Share moments of joy, and even in the hard times, find reasons to laugh.

In every argument, remember that there won’t be a “winner” and a “loser.” You are partners in everything so you’ll either win together or lose together. Work together to find a solution.

Remember that a strong marriage rarely has two strong people at the same time. It’s usually a husband and wife taking turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak. Prioritize what happens in the bedroom. It takes more than sex to build a strong marriage, but it’s nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it!

Remember that marriage isn’t 50-50, divorce is 50-50. Marriage has to be 100-100. It’s not splitting everything in half, but both partners giving everything they’ve got!

Give your best to each other, not your leftovers after you’ve given your best to everyone else.

Learn from other people, but don’t feel the need to compare your life or your marriage to anyone else’s. God’s plan for your life is masterfully unique!

Don’t put your marriage on hold while you’re raising your kids or else you’ll end up with an empty nest and an empty marriage.

Never keep secrets from each other. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy.

Never lie to each other. Lies break trust and trust is the foundation of a strong marriage.

When you’ve made a mistake, admit it and humbly seek forgiveness. You should be quick to say, “I was wrong. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.”

When your husband/wife breaks your trust, give them your forgiveness instantly which will promote healing and create the opportunity for trust to be rebuilt. You should be quick to say, “I love you. I forgive you. Let’s move forward.”

Be patient with each other. Your spouse is always more important that your schedule.

Model the kind of marriage that will make your sons want to grow up to be good husbands and your daughters want to grow up to be good wives.

Never talk badly about your spouse to other people or vent about them online. Protect your spouse at all times and in all places.

Always wear your wedding ring. It will remind you that you’re always connected to your spouse and it will remind the rest of the world that you’re off limits!

Connect into a community of faith. A good church can make a world of difference in your marriage and family.

Pray together. Every marriage is stronger with God in the middle of it.

When you have to choose between saying nothing or saying something mean to your spouse, say nothing every time!

Never consider annulment as an option. Remember that a “perfect marriage” is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

–PASIG Magazine

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Be Good and Do Good

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When the bird is alive, it eats the ants.” When the bird dies, the ants eat the bird. Time and circumstances can change at any time. Never devalue or hurt anyone in life. You may be strong today but remember that time is stronger than you! One tree makes a million matchsticks, and one matchstick can burn a million trees, so do not let one negative thing affect the millions of positive things in your life…

“So be good and do good”

–Blessing Ifyweni Odor Chuks

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Farmers who wait for the perfect weather never plant

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There is one thing stronger than all the armies in the world put together that is an idea whose time has come (Victor Hugo).

Many today have great ideas but they are waiting for the perfect moment or to perfect their idea before they can actually act on it. Andy Boynton author of the book “The Idea Hunter” said “The world is filled with ideas that can be useful”. It is true that Time and chance happen to us all under the sun. We will all at time all another have ideas that can help us move to the next level in our lives.

Having ideas is great but the most important thing is to act upon the ideas. Jim Rohn said ” Act when the idea is still hot or you will waste your wisdom.” It is true that everything starts with an idea but waiting till the right time can actually make you lose the idea. John C Maxwell said “Ideas have a short shelf life. You must act on them before the expiration date”.

Mark Zuckerberg further said ” Ideas don’t come out fully formed . You just have to start”. In May 1886, Dr. John S. Pemberton, a pharmacist in Atlanta, Georgia, created the syrup for Coca-Cola.He carried a jug of the new product down the street to Jacobs’ Pharmacy in Atlanta. There, it was sampled, pronounced “excellent” and placed on sale as a soda fountain drink for five cents a glass.
Dr. Pemberton’s bookkeeper, Frank Robinson, suggested the name “Coca-Cola” and penned the flowing script that is famous today. In 2022, Coca-Cola’s brand was valued at 97.9 billion U.S. dollars. It all started in 1886 with an idea which they kept improving on. One of the things that has been improved upon is the coca cola. In 1936 people said the can looked an engine oil container while others said it looked like an insecticide can. That did not stop the company from being focus and improving itself.

You may have an idea today which you feel can change the world but you are waiting for the perfect moment. Farmers who wait for the perfect weather never plant. Just start with whatever you have and focus on the step in front of you. You may not have it all but it will definitely get better as you move on. As Napoleon Hill said “Do not wait: the time will never be ‘just right’. Start where you stand, and work whatever tools you may have at your command and better tools will be found as you go along

–Nyambi

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The Comfort Zone is Not a Place of Growth

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The comfort zone is not a place of growth, but a place of comfort. To truly live, you must be willing to take the leap and embrace the unknown, even when it feels scary or uncomfortable. That’s where the magic happens.”

7 Lessons from Kristen Butler’s book “The Comfort Zone: Create a Life You Really Love with Less Stress and More Flow”:

1. Redefining the Comfort Zone: The book challenges the traditional view of the comfort zone as a place of stagnation and boredom. Instead, it proposes a new perspective: the comfort zone is a foundation of safety and security from which you can launch yourself towards growth and exploration.

2. Expanding Your Comfort Zone for Growth: While there’s comfort in familiar routines, true growth happens outside your comfort zone. The book encourages taking calculated risks, trying new things, and stepping outside your self-imposed limitations to reach your full potential.

3. Embracing the Challenge with Joy: Stepping outside your comfort zone doesn’t have to be filled with dread. The book emphasizes approaching challenges with a sense of curiosity and excitement. It’s about finding the joy in the learning process and celebrating small victories along the way.

4. Flow: The Sweet Spot Between Challenge and Skill: The book introduces the concept of flow, a state of optimal experience where challenge and skill are perfectly balanced. It’s in this state that you experience deep focus, intrinsic motivation, and a sense of fulfillment.

5. Identifying Your Limiting Beliefs: Negative self-beliefs can hinder your growth. “The Comfort Zone” encourages identifying these limiting beliefs and replacing them with empowering thoughts that support your desire to step outside your comfort zone.

6. Building Confidence Through Small Steps: Significant change often starts with small actions. The book emphasizes setting achievable goals and taking incremental steps outside your comfort zone. These small wins build confidence and momentum for continued growth.

7. Creating a Growth Mindset: The book encourages adopting a growth mindset, believing that your abilities and talents can be developed through effort and perseverance. This mindset fuels your motivation to keep expanding your comfort zone and reaching for your goals.

By shifting your perspective on the comfort zone and embracing the opportunities for growth that lie outside it, Butler argues, you can create a life filled with less stress, more flow, and a deeper sense of fulfillment.

– Olubunmi Akinsuroju

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Precious Bees

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Did you know that one tablespoon of honey is enough to keep a person alive for 24 hours?
Did you know that one of the world’s first coins featured the symbol of a bee?
Did you know that honey contains live enzymes?
The best way to eat honey is with a wooden spoon; if you can’t find one, use a plastic spoon.
Did you know that honey contains a substance that helps the brain function better?
Did you know that honey is one of the few foods on earth that can sustain human life on its own?
Did you know that bees have saved people from starvation in Africa?
Did you know that propolis produced by bees is one of the strongest natural antibiotics?
Did you know that honey does not have an expiration date?
Did you know that the bodies of some of the greatest emperors were buried in gold coffins and then covered with honey to prevent decay?
Did you know that the term “honeymoon” comes from the tradition of newlyweds consuming honey for fertility after marriage?
Did you know that a bee lives less than 40 days, visits at least 1,000 flowers, and produces less than a teaspoon of honey, but for the bee, it is a lifetime of work?
Thank you, precious bees..!

–Plants and gardening

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The biggest obstacle is the presence of distractions

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The biggest obstacle to living a good life is not the absence of luck, talent, or resources, but the presence of distractions. Most people are too busy chasing nothing to focus on what truly matters. Don’t let the noise of the world distract you from the peace of your own mind.”

7 Lessons from Darius Foroux’s book “Focus on What Matters: A Collection of Stoic Letters on Living Well”:

1. Prioritize ruthlessly: Inspired by Seneca’s letters, the book emphasizes identifying your core values and ruthlessly prioritizing activities that align with them. Eliminate distractions and unimportant tasks that steal your time and energy.

2. Memento Mori – Remember You Must Die: The book incorporates the Stoic practice of memento mori, reminding readers of their mortality. This awareness encourages focusing on what truly matters and letting go of trivialities that fade with time.

3. The Dichotomy of Control: Drawing from Stoic philosophy, “Focus on What Matters” teaches you to distinguish between what you can control (your thoughts, actions, and reactions) and what you cannot control (external events and other people’s behavior). Focus your energy on the controllable aspects of your life.

4. Choose Your Perception: The book encourages taking responsibility for your own happiness. It highlights that external circumstances don’t dictate your happiness; your perception of those circumstances does. Learn to reframe challenges and choose a more positive perspective.

5. The Power of Action: While reflection is important, “Focus on What Matters” emphasizes the importance of taking action to achieve your goals. Don’t get stuck in analysis paralysis. Start small, build momentum, and celebrate progress along the way.

6. The Importance of Habits: The book highlights the power of habits in shaping your life. By developing positive habits aligned with your values and goals, you can create a more fulfilling and productive life on autopilot.

7. Cultivate Gratitude: “Focus on What Matters” encourages practicing gratitude for the good things in your life, no matter how small. Gratitude fosters a sense of contentment and appreciation, which can lead to greater happiness and well-being.

By incorporating these lessons from Stoic philosophy, Foroux encourages readers to live a more intentional and meaningful life focused on what truly matters. The book offers practical guidance on prioritizing ruthlessly, managing your perception, and taking consistent action to achieve your goals and live a life of virtue.

–The Reading Circle

BOOK: https://amzn.to/4eL8G8d

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Be Humble; It Costs Nothing

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Dolly Chaiwalla once said: “At the peak of my career, I was traveling on an airplane.

A simple, unassuming gentleman in a big shirt and pants sat next to me. He looked like someone from the middle class and well-educated.

Other passengers recognized me and were chatting with me, but this gentleman seemed unaware of my presence. He was quietly mumbling to himself, occasionally glancing out of the window. When tea was served, he sipped it in silence.

I smiled at him, trying to start a conversation. He looked at me, smiled politely, and said, ‘Hello.’

We started talking, and I brought up tea and reels, asking, ‘Do you watch reels?’

The gentleman replied, ‘Oh, very rarely. I watched one many years ago.’

I mentioned that I worked in the chapri industry.

He responded, ‘Oh, that’s nice. What do you do?’

I said, ‘I’m an influenza.’

He nodded, ‘Oh, that’s wonderful!’ and went back to mumbling.

When we disembarked, I shook his hand and said, ‘It was nice traveling with you. By the way, my name is Dolly Chaiwala!’

The gentleman shook my hand with a smile and said, ‘Thank you… it was nice meeting you. I’m MC Stan(the chairman of chapri rap club)!’

That day I learned that no matter how big you think you are, there’s always someone bigger.

Be humble; it costs nothing.

So, my friend, remember to stay humble in your career journey. It doesn’t cost anything, and you never know who you might meet along the way!

– Sikkimese Troll

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How to Attract Money

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Your subconscious mind is a magnet that attracts wealth, success, and happiness when you impress it with positive thoughts and feelings. You must learn to think and feel prosperously, and your subconscious will do the rest.”

7 Lessons from Joseph Murphy’s book “How to Attract Money: The Original Classic of Abundance”:

1. Belief in Prosperity is Your Birthright: The book challenges the idea of poverty as a virtue. Instead, it argues that financial abundance is your natural state and believing in your right to prosperity is the first step towards attracting it.

2. Your Subconscious Mind is a Magnet: Murphy emphasizes the power of the subconscious mind in attracting wealth. By replacing limiting beliefs with thoughts of abundance and prosperity, you program your subconscious to work towards your financial goals.

3. Visualization is Key: The book promotes the power of visualization. By vividly imagining yourself achieving financial success, you create a blueprint for your subconscious mind to follow and attract opportunities.

4. Positive Affirmations Reprogram Your Thoughts: Murphy advocates for using positive affirmations to replace negative beliefs about money. Repeating affirmations like “I am a magnet for wealth” or “Prosperity flows to me effortlessly” can shift your mindset and attract abundance.

5. Gratitude Amplifies Abundance: Expressing gratitude for the money you already have opens you up to receiving more. The book encourages practicing gratitude for your current financial situation, no matter how big or small.

6. The Law of Attraction Applied to Money: Murphy connects the concept of the Law of Attraction to attracting money. By focusing on your desires for wealth with positive emotions, you put out an energetic vibration that attracts opportunities and abundance.

7. Action Aligns with Belief: Belief and action go hand in hand. “How to Attract Money” emphasizes the importance of taking inspired action towards your financial goals. While positive thinking is crucial, it must be coupled with effort to manifest abundance.

It’s important to note: While Murphy’s book offers motivational strategies, some may find the claims about the subconscious mind and the Law of Attraction unsubstantiated.

–Lengdung Tungchamma

BOOK: https://amzn.to/4eIhKKT

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20 Unspoken Rules for Men

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1. Always keep your word – if you make a promise, keep it.

2. Respect women – treat them with dignity and respect.

3. Take care of your appearance – dress appropriately and maintain good hygiene.

4. Be honest – don’t lie or deceive others.

5. Show respect for elders – listen to their advice and guidance.

6. Be loyal – stand by your friends and family.

7. Be responsible – take ownership of your actions and their consequences.

8. Be self-sufficient – learn to take care of yourself.

9. Learn to forgive – holding grudges only hurts you in the long run.

10. Be humble – don’t brag or boast about your accomplishments.

11. Be patient – good things come to those who wait.

12. Don’t be a bully – treat others with kindness and compassion.

13. Be a good listener – pay attention to what others are saying.

14. Be a good communicator – express yourself clearly and effectively.

15. Be confident – believe in yourself and your abilities.

16. Act with integrity – do the right thing, even when no one is watching.

17. Be disciplined – have self-control and focus on your goals.

18. Show gratitude – appreciate the people and things in your life.

19. Be open-minded – consider different perspectives and ideas.

20. Be a lifelong learner – never stop growing and improving yourself.

–EYA Oliver Uchenna

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Some Useless Facts You Need to Know

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  1. When you become aware of your breath, it shifts from automatic mode to manual mode.
  2. Stare at the palm of your hand for 20 seconds, and it will feel warm.
  3. The swimming pool on the Titanic is still filled with water today.
  4. Death is not frightening because there are loved ones on both sides.
  5. Useless fact: the useless fact is before the colon.
  6. Karl Marx being a Marxist is just destiny.
  7. Items with an expiration date of one year are often thrown away on their birthdays.
  8. It hurt a lot when you bite your tongue accidentally, but isn’t as painful when you bite it intentionally.
  9. When you find a cockroach in your home, the cockroach also detects a person in its home.
  10. Except for water, there’s no food in the world with 0 calories.
  11. Wearing headphones for 1 hour will increase the bacteria in your ear by 700 times.
  12. The oldest picture of you is also the youngest picture of you and vice versa. –Sunshine’s Fact World