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Your Choices Will Make You
I wish to remind you of a profound truth, beautifully captured in the words of Dr. Seuss: “You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose.” These simple yet powerful words encapsulate the essence of human potential and the boundless opportunities that lie before each of us. Within each of us resides the capacity to think, to dream, and to act. Our brains are the engines of innovation, our feet the vehicles of action, and our choices the maps that guide our journey. Consider the first element of this wisdom: “You have brains in your head.” Our minds are our greatest assets. They are capable of extraordinary creativity, deep introspection, and boundless learning. With our intellect, we can envision possibilities, solve complex problems, and forge new paths. But to truly harness this power, we must cultivate a mindset of growth and curiosity. As Albert Einstein once said, “Intellectual growth should commence at birth and cease only at death.” Never underestimate the power of your thoughts. What you believe about yourself and your potential shapes your reality. As the great philosopher René Descartes asserted, “Cogito, ergo sum”—”I think, therefore I am.” Our thoughts are the architects of our destiny. Therefore, nurture your mind with knowledge, challenge it with new ideas, and fuel it with positive affirmations.
The second element reminds us: “You have feet in your shoes.” This speaks to our ability to act, to move forward, and to pursue our dreams. Our feet symbolize the power of action. Dreams and ideas remain mere fantasies without the courage to take steps toward their realization. As Lao Tzu wisely said, “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” Action requires courage. It demands that we step out of our comfort zones, face our fears, and embrace the unknown. Each step we take, no matter how small, propels us closer to our goals. As we walk our paths, we may encounter obstacles and setbacks, but remember, these are merely stepping stones to success. The great inventor Thomas Edison reminds us, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” Finally, “You can steer yourself any direction you choose.” This is the essence of personal freedom and responsibility. We are the captains of our own ships, the masters of our fate. The choices we make today shape the landscapes of our tomorrows. This freedom is both a gift and a responsibility. As Viktor Frankl, a Holocaust survivor and renowned psychiatrist, wrote, “Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
Life will present us with countless crossroads. The decisions we make at these junctures determine our trajectory. Choose wisely. Choose paths that align with your values, your passions, and your purpose. Do not be swayed by the expectations of others or the fear of failure. As Ralph Waldo Emerson advised, “Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.” Remember the power that resides within you; you have brains in your head—nurture them. You have feet in your shoes—use them. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose—choose wisely and boldly. Embrace the journey with courage, curiosity, and conviction. For it is not the destination that defines us, but the paths we take and the choices we make along the way. May your journey be filled with discovery, your steps with purpose, and your choices with wisdom. The world is yours to explore, to shape, and to transform.
Get Friends
If you want to be finished in this life, get friends who have no visions, not dreams no plans etc
Time is an investment and where you invest your Time is where you will get your returns. Imagine investing your time in friends whose only achievement is the growth in years? Well I don’t know if that qualifiers to be called an achievement.
Friendship is determined by who you are becoming not what you have been. If your friendship is not helping you develop in one way or the other then it’s high time you asked yourself if you really need it because the truth is you will never go beyond the friendships you interact with.
Remember Iron sharpens Irons. you cannot be different from those you closely associate with. Someone once said “I used to think making $10,000 a month was impossible until I met someone who makes $100, 000 a month then making $10,000 become easy”. Hang out with people who help you achieve your goals not crush them. Sometime in the past, Rolls Royce used to exhibit their cars near other cars and that made them look so expensive compared to other cars. They then came up with a marketing strategy and started exhibiting their cars near planes and yachts. Because of the high value of planes and yachts people did not mind paying for the Rolls Royce My question is who are you standing next to? If you are found with people going nowhere, can someone give you a contract? Definitely not.
Success is contagious so is poverty. The easiest way to catch a flue is by hanging around someone who has a flue. A drowning man will pull you down together with him. The type of people you sorround yourself with play a great role in determining what you get in life.
If you want to succeed in an endeavor, associate yourself with people who are already Successful in that endeavour. Warren Buffett once said ” it’s better to hang out with people better than you. Pick out associates whose behaviour is better than yours and you will drift in that direction”.
Happiness is a choice
Our happiness gets smaller as we get older. As children, our joys are simple and abundant: a sunny day, a favorite toy, a loving hug. Our smiles are wide, our laughter contagious.
But as we grow older, our happiness becomes more elusive. We chase bigger dreams, only to find that they don’t fulfill us as deeply as we thought. We accumulate more possessions, but they don’t bring us the joy we once found in simple pleasures.
We become more cautious, more jaded, more critical. Our smiles fade, our laughter becomes less frequent. We start to believe that happiness is a luxury we can no longer afford.
But what if we’re looking at happiness through the wrong lens? What if we’re chasing the wrong things? What if happiness is not something we find, but something we create?
Let’s rediscover the joy of the little things. Let’s embrace the beauty of simplicity. Let’s find happiness in the present moment, not in some distant future.
For happiness is not a destination, but a journey. And it’s never too late to start again.
Happiness is a choice
20 Unspoken Rules for Men
1. Never shake a hand sitting down.
Standing up shows respect and engagement. It signifies that you value the person you are meeting and are fully present in the interaction.
2. Protect who is behind you, and respect who is beside you.
This emphasizes loyalty and honor. Protecting those behind you means safeguarding your family, friends, and teammates. Respecting those beside you signifies recognizing the equality and value of your peers.
3. Never insult the cooking when you are the guest.
Showing gratitude and respect for hospitality is essential. Criticizing the cooking is disrespectful and ungrateful, especially when someone has gone out of their way to host you.
4. Never eat the last piece of something you didn’t buy.
This rule underscores courtesy and consideration for others. It demonstrates awareness and respect for shared resources and the contributions of others.
5. Never make the first offer in a negotiation.
Letting the other party make the first offer can provide strategic advantages. It gives you insight into their expectations and can help you negotiate better terms.
6. Don’t take credit for work you didn’t do.
Integrity in acknowledging others’ efforts is crucial. Taking undue credit undermines trust and damages your credibility.
7. Take the blame, and give credit when due.
Owning up to mistakes and recognizing others’ contributions builds respect and trust. It shows maturity and leadership.
8. If you are not invited, don’t ask to go.
Respecting boundaries and invitations is key to maintaining good social etiquette. It avoids awkward situations and respects the host’s intentions.
9. Always aim for the head.
This metaphorical rule can apply to many scenarios, implying that you should strive for excellence and precision in your efforts.
10. Don’t beg for a relationship.
Self-respect and dignity are important. Desperation can lead to unhealthy dynamics and undervalues your worth.
11. Dress well no matter what the occasion.
Good grooming and dressing appropriately show respect for yourself and others. It also boosts confidence and makes a positive impression.
12. Always carry cash.
Being prepared for various situations, including emergencies, is practical. It reflects foresight and responsibility.
13. Listen, nod, and most of all make eye contact.
Active listening and non-verbal engagement are crucial for effective communication. They show that you value and are attentive to the speaker.
14. Show restraint in expressing anger, no matter what. Being angry is a waste of energy.
Managing anger is vital for maintaining composure and making rational decisions. It prevents regrettable actions and fosters a more positive environment.
15. Whether it’s dinner, drinks, or both, avoid placing your phone on the dinner table.
Prioritizing face-to-face interactions over digital distractions shows respect and attentiveness to those present.
16. Never pose with alcohol.
Maintaining a responsible image is important. Posing with alcohol can convey unprofessionalism or recklessness.
17. Proper grammar will get you far in life. Leave the foul language for the less educated.
Good communication skills, including proper grammar, enhance your credibility and professionalism. Avoiding foul language shows respect and maturity.
18. Ask more than you answer.
Showing interest in others by asking questions fosters better relationships and understanding. It also demonstrates humility and a willingness to learn.
19. You can tell a great deal about a person by their handshake, so make yours strong and firm.
A firm handshake conveys confidence and sincerity. It is often the first impression you make, so it’s important to get it right.
20. Speak honestly. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
Honesty builds trust and integrity. It involves being truthful and consistent, fostering deeper connections and mutual respect. Speaking honestly also means balancing truth with empathy and tact, ensuring that your words are respectful and considerate.
13 Ways to Correct Your Husband Without Hurting His Ego
WHY NAGGING, SHOUTING, SCREAMING IS NOT GOOD IN A RELATIONSHIP? because everything reflects on who you really are.. give respect to your Man and it always comes back at you.. and vice versa..
–LoveJoy Wisdom
13 WAYS TO CORRECT YOUR HUSBAND WITHOUT HURTING HIS EGO
1.) – LOWER YOUR VOICE
Don’t shout at him..He is not your child. Although sometimes he acts like a child but yes you can correct him in a minimum volume tone.
2.) – DO IT IN LOVE
Correction should be done in love. Remember your husband is a human too. He makes mistakes and so are you.
3.)a: – NEVER EVER CRITICIZE YOUR HUSBAND IN PUBLIC OR INFRONT OF YOUR FRIENDS.
Stop criticizing him, especially infront of your friends or family, that is very degrading to men, rather correct in love, just whisper with a gently hug. Most will say it’s constructive criticism. But girl, men have egos too.. there self esteem are easy to breakdown.
Correction is the act of offering better options.
Correction and criticism are never the same
3.)b: – LETS CUT THE SAYING “WHATEVER MY WIFE SAYS”
Girl, YOU ARE NOT THE BOSS! And so does your husband.
Every decision should be talked and planned with the both of you.
If he said your cooking is a little salty, NEVER WALKED OUT OF THE TABLE…instead appologize and offer other options. Give him sugar instead, and impove your cooking by watching cooking videos on youtube.
4.) – PRAISE HIM FOR HIS ACCOMPLISHMENTS
If he puts the curtain rod straight or your wall decor in perfect angle, appreciate that.. you know how meticulous they are when it comes to putting wall decor. They really mean business when you request them to do that, with all the use of measuring tapes and torpedo level and rulers. An extra appreciation will make him love you more.
5.) – DON’T DO IT IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILDREN
Avoid correcting your husband in the presence of your children. Incessant correction of your husband infront of your children will make them disrespect him. Remember HE IS THE HEAD OF YOUR HOUSEHOLD.
6.) – DON’T CORRECT HIM IN PUBLIC
Avoid correcting your husband in public, it does not show you as a virtuous woman and will affect his self-esteem. If you do that in public, you will look like a mad dog without breeding.
7.) – AVOID CORRECTING IN ANGER.
Stop correcting your husband in anger, shouting, ranting, beating and making trouble. Never push your husband to the point of him to fight back and protect himself from a rascal act of yours. By doing that, you are like adding kerosine on a burning house. Instead, invite him for a walk, hold his hand and talk about the problem.
8.) – DON’T COMPARE HIM WITH ANY OTHER MAN! NEVER EVER!!!
Thats where jelousy comes from.
In your thought of correcting him, you might have been comparing him with other men.
“Don’t you see what your friend is doing?” Can’t you learn from our neighbors husband?” “Can’t you be like cheska husband? Or susie’s husband? Or can you be like ADAM IN THE GARDEN OF EDEN? Or like SAMSON or SOLOMON? Girl, your husband is different. When you come to a point of doing these, then REMEMBER THE TIME WHEN HE STILL COURTING YOU and why you choose him and remember how you are head over heels in love with him.
9.) – NEVER GET BACK TO OLD ISSUES
There is no reasons why you need to get back to old issues… like “remember what you did before?? I will never ever, ever forget that!!! Bla bla bla!!!” Once the issues are done and solve, it should be totally erased in your memory… never try to open a grave… well mannered woman never do that. Stick to the present issue, discuss like adults and move on.
10.) – DON’T ATTACK HIS MANHOOD
“And you call yourself a MAN ENOUGH?, REAL MAN don’t behave like this, you better change before I change you!.” This is very wrong, don’t do it… LADIES WE DON’t change MEN! if they want to change, they will change because of LOVE. Don’t try to be a sculptor of water. For sure you can’t do that.
11.) – DON’T ATTACK HIS DIGNITY
GIVE YOUR HUSBAND A BUNCH OF RESPECT!!!
Thats all that matters. If you don’t have enough respect for your husband then you are not worth the respect of your children.
12.) – DO IT IN TIME OF PEACE
Most WIFES do want to correct in the heat of their anger, at the height of misunderstanding, when temper has already hit the roof. That is not the best time to correct, it will yield little or no result at all. MEN is simple…they have SELECTIVE HEARING. they can only hear in. Low tone of your voice.
13.) – GIVE A HELPING HAND
Work together for good… change tire together, try your best to help in your most seductive way. That will make their job easy and fast. If he is fixing a broken leg of a table, hand him the things he need. Don’t just stand and watch your husband like you are an egyptian pharaoh mandating a slaves and ready to give a whip when he makes a mistakes.
Husband most of the time are doing a great job, appreciate yours and support him to be better husband and father.
THE REAL EMPOWERED HEALED WOMAN IS THE ONE WHO KNOWS HOW TO RESPECT MEN.
IF YOU EXPECT YOUR HUSBAND TO BE A RESPECTABLE KING IN YOUR PALACE, THEN YOU SHOULD FIRST CREATE A PEACEFUL PALACE FOR HIM!
Top 100 Movies Based on True Events.
1. Schindler’s List (1993)
2. Titanic (1997)
3. A Beautiful Mind (2001)
4. The Pursuit of Happyness (2006)
5. Apollo 13 (1995)
6. 12 Years a Slave (2013)
7. The Imitation Game (2014)
8. Spotlight (2015)
9. The Revenant (2015)
10. Sully (2016)
11. Hacksaw Ridge (2016)
12. Dunkirk (2017)
13. The Post (2017)
14. Darkest Hour (2017)
15. Bohemian Rhapsody (2018)
16. Green Book (2018)
17. Vice (2018)
18. First Man (2018)
19. The Social Network (2010)
20. Ford v Ferrari (2019)
21. 1917 (2019)
22. Just Mercy (2019)
23. Bombshell (2019)
24. Harriet (2019)
25. Judas and the Black Messiah (2021)
26. The Trial of the Chicago 7 (2020)
27. Richard Jewell (2019)
28. Captain Phillips (2013)
29. The King’s Speech (2010)
30. The Blind Side (2009)
31. Dallas Buyers Club (2013)
32. Moneyball (2011)
33. American Sniper (2014)
34. The Theory of Everything (2014)
35. Erin Brockovich (2000)
36. Goodfellas (1990)
37. Hotel Rwanda (2004)
38. 127 Hours (2010)
39. The Fighter (2010)
40. Zero Dark Thirty (2012)
41. Bridge of Spies (2015)
42. Unbroken (2014)
43. The Founder (2016)
44. Hidden Figures (2016)
45. The Danish Girl (2015)
46. Invictus (2009)
47. The Elephant Man (1980)
48. Catch Me If You Can (2002)
49. Sully (2016)
50. The Pianist (2002)
51. Into the Wild (2007)
52. Ray (2004)
53. Milk (2008)
54. Born on the Fourth of July (1989)
55. The Hurricane (1999)
56. The Last King of Scotland (2006)
57. The Wolf of Wall Street (2013)
58. The Great Debaters (2007)
59. The Fighter (2010)
60. The Butler (2013)
61. The Big Short (2015)
62. American Hustle (2013)
63. Invictus (2009)
64. Lincoln (2012)
65. The Pursuit of Happyness (2006)
66. The Aviator (2004)
67. Lawrence of Arabia (1962)
68. The Elephant Man (1980)
69. My Left Foot (1989)
70. Chaplin (1992)
71. Frida (2002)
72. Hotel Rwanda (2004)
73. Monster (2003)
74. Zodiac (2007)
75. Selma (2014)
76. Steve Jobs (2015)
77. Jackie (2016)
78. The Walk (2015)
79. The Man Who Knew Infinity (2015)
80. The Post (2017)
81. All the Money in the World (2017)
82. Molly’s Game (2017)
83. The Florida Project (2017)
84. The 33 (2015)
85. The Railway Man (2013)
86. Stronger (2017)
87. Loving (2016)
88. Snowden (2016)
89. The Lost City of Z (2016)
90. The Founder (2016)
91. The Front Runner (2018)
92. The Disaster Artist (2017)
93. The Current War (2017)
94. The Favourite (2018)
95. Stan & Ollie (2018)
96. BlacKkKlansman (2018)
97. On the Basis of Sex (2018)
98. Judy (2019)
99. Bombshell (2019)
100. The Irishman (2019)
No one will come and save you
No one will come and save you. No one will come riding on a white horse and take all your worries away. You have to save yourself, little by little, day by day. Build yourself a home. Take care of your body. Find something to work on. Something that makes you excited, something you want to learn. Get yourself some books and learn them by heart. Get to know the author, where he grew up, what books he read himself. Take yourself out for dinner. Dress up for no one but you and simply feel nice. it’s a lovely feeling, to feel pretty. You don’t need anyone to confirm it.”
– Charlotte Eriksson
– Illustration : Yaoyao Ma
WHAT IS LIFE LIKE?
One day, a boy asked his old grandfather,
“Grandpa, let me take this opportunity to ask a question; what is life like?”
The old man stood in thought for a moment, with a look of intense surprise on his face, then he said,
“Come, on boy! I want you to follow me to the market place, I need to buy a few things – a number of things, actually. When we return, I’ll tell you what life is like. Let’s go!”
The boy and his grandfather went to the market place in the town. They bought detergent, toothbrush, tissues, toilet paper, some vegetables, fruits, eggs, milk and fish. They spent a wonderful time together, had so much fun, told jokes, laughed a lot, and it was an incredible experience.
Later in the evening, they arrived home, tired and hungry, but delighted to have had such an enjoyable time together. The boy then asked his grandfather,
“So tell me, grandpa… what is life like?”
The old man said,
“Let me ask you a question first. What happened after we finished shopping at the market place?”
The boy answered,
“We came home.”
The old man smiled broadly and whistled,
“Good! That is how life is! Life is like shopping at the market place; after you finished, you go home! Listen boy, life is like a market place. Everyone comes to the market to buy or sell. And when the market time is over, everyone goes back home. Some people came and forget what they want to buy, while some people came and buy what they want to buy and go. Some make the most out of every moment, while some dwell in sadness and regrets. Some leave early, some leave later, but all return home at one time or the other. Some are in a hurry, while a few are patient to order their steps. Whether or not you are doing well in life, you must go home one day. We are not here to stay forever. But the important question is; when we eventually return home, what will we bring from the market place? What type of footprints are we going to leave?”
